Sometimes we need to hear something from a different perspective or source before it resonates for us.

If you have been around me long enough you have no doubt heard me talk about one of the most beneficial paradigms for your personal growth and happiness there is:

The outer world reality is a mirror of our relationship with ourselves

or

First within, then without

In service to your happiness and liberation today, I’d like to share what Louise Hay has to say about this:

“Life always mirrors back to us the feelings we have inside.

We have relationships with everything. You are even having a relationship now with what you’re reading and with me and my concepts. The relationships you have with objects and foods and weather and transportation and with people, all reflect the relationship you have with yourself. The relationship you have with yourself is highly influenced by the relationships you had with the adults around you as a child. The way the adults reacted to us is often the way we react toward ourselves now, both positively and negatively.

Think for a moment of the words you use when you are scolding yourself. Aren’t they the same words your parents used when they were scolding you? What words did they use when they praised you? I’m sure you use the same words to praise yourself. Perhaps they never praised you, so then you have no idea how to praise yourself and probably think you have nothing to praise. I am not blaming our parents because we are all victims of victims. They could not possibly teach you anything they did not know.

If you want to go from loneliness thinking to fulfillment thinking, then you need to think in terms of creating a loving mental atmosphere within you and around you.

When you’re able to contribute to the fulfillment of your own needs, then you won’t be so needy and codependent. It has to do with how much you love yourself. When you truly love who you are, you stay centered, calm, and secure, and your relationships at home (as well as at work) are wonderful. You’ll find yourself reacting to various situations and people differently. Matters that once may have been desperately important won’t seem quite as crucial anymore. New people will enter your life, and perhaps some old ones will disappear. This can be kind of scary at first, but it can also be wonderful, refreshing, and exciting.”

– Louise Hay​

Let me know how I can best serve you. What are your biggest challenges right now? I am grateful for the opportunity to provide information and tools to help.